We are always under pressure, but we rarely realize that. There is always a fear inside us. Society causes this fear, other people’s thoughts, and other religious or cultural views. To get rid of this burden, we have to be what they want. We should not break rules, we should not be different, and we should not create another world in our minds.
“You can make life very simple or very complicated. Some people try to be what others want them to be. Others try to be different just to stand out. In both cases, they are changing themselves to impress others. Neither of these paths has a heart. Just be true to yourself. It’s that simple.”
-Mike Stutman
Every day, we get used to being “the ideal person.” We recede our dreams because of what others want. But little children are not ready for these demands. The difficulty starts when a child begins going to school. Children are forced to wake up early, do homework, and listen to unimportant information. When they start to get used to these situations, parents and teachers expect high grades from them. Then, parents expect them to have well-paid and respected jobs such as medicine or engineering and a proper marriage for their well-being. But they miss a point; money will not bring happiness when people live a life that is not ideal for them. In the world, there are many people who do not enjoy their lives due to their wrong choices. The most common source of unhappiness is their job choice. Generally, people make this mistake because of the wrong orientation from their parents.
“If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.”
– Maya Angelou
People do not accept the options with which they are not familiar. They let their thinking be molded. They think that if someone is a painter, he does not have enough money to meet his or her needs. They even once thought women should not go to school, which is considered a shame to think in this way today. We eliminate the chance of having a utopian world by not even trying to break the molds in our thinking. If we ignore the diamonds that are walking around us, we will have a dark and dull world.
“The things that make me different are the things that make me.”
– Winnie The Pooh
Aamir Khan’s movie called “Every Child is Special” deals with this issue. We can clearly figure out the issue which I have mentioned above. The main character, Ishaan, suffers from dyslexia, which causes some reading difficulties. Ishaan’s parents forced him to achieve high grades like his older brother, despite his condition, because they do not accept that their son can be different due to a psychological or neurological reason. They want Ishaan to be a successful doctor or engineer, without noticing the pain he experiences caused by his inability to perform basic tasks such as buttoning a shirt or lacing up shoes. When his parents see that Ishaan will not learn how to read and write, they assume this is caused by the child’s own laziness and irresponsible behavior. Therefore, to provide a better educational life, they send their child to a boarding school. Teachers in that school put even more pressure on him, but he became much more introverted instead of being more successful there. He stopped doing things he loved before, like painting. When he tried to express that the letters were dancing – which is a symptom of dyslexia – everyone laughed at him and thought that he was just making excuses.
As this movie shows, by forcing someone to do something, we get only pain, and we can destroy their life by killing his/her dreams.
Therefore, I believe we, as juventude, must break the invisible chains surrounding our minds and start thinking freely. We should also teach our children to think freely without boundaries. If we do so, we will see that the world will be a totally different place.
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